Well, tomorrow, C and I will be closing on a house in West Orange, New Jersey. A lot has happened in the past month, so let me briefly get us up to speed. Since this post, we wound up putting an offer down on the above-mentioned place. Then we went through some negotiations in price, followed by inspections and contingencies, and settled on something pretty darned good, both for us and (I think) the seller. It's nice when everybody comes out happy on these things. At the exact same time, we wound up receiving an offer on our place in Baltimore, and that had it's own set of negotiations, inspections, and contingencies. I think everybody is happy on this one as well. But it was dicey for a bit, and all this made for an interesting holiday filled with back-and-forths between us and various agents and attorneys.

I haven't written much about the new house until now partly out of a superstition that once I type the words, the whole deal will suddenly fall apart. And I'd really hate for that to happen because it's a great house and we're even more excited than we were last time we bought one of these domestic abode type doo-dads which — wow — I can remember it like it was yesterday, or — oh, I don't know — seven months ago. But there, I've had these words on my screen for a couple of minutes now and . . . nope, no phone calls. Looks like we're still good. But just in case, why don't we all find a little wood and knock on it.

Nice. Thanks.

And so begins another frenzy of disruption and change. Utilities canceled at the old place and re-ordered at the new one. Addresses swapped out again, one by one, for a long list of magazines, credit cards, insurance companies, and other subscription services. And as this whole process did the last time, it once again alarms me how much my name and address is tied to. And, while I'm happy and grateful for all of the things I have, I've lately found myself longing for . . . nothing. Or rather, I do long for something and that something is nothing. Maybe nothingness would be a better word. Whatever. What it boils down to is this: I long to be off The Grid. Floating anonymously, far from the the dock of obligation or identity. In fact, this now holds the number one slot for "wildest fantasy" in my mind, which when you think about it, is a pretty sad commentary on the state of my imagination and, let's be honest, my libido.

But I can fantasize all I like. I'm firmly rooted in The Grid now. There's no getting around it. My name is already on multiple loan documents, and while it will be released from one of those at the end of the month, it will be added to another tomorrow. So it's a wash from that standpoint. Then, there are the legal identifications. I just renewed my passport (which is totally unrelated to the move, but still relevant to the theme here) for another ten years so that I can travel to Mexico in March without being detained on the way back in (my current passport is set to expire during the trip). And when we move to Jersey, one of my first stops will be at the DMV, where I will register with the state so that my identity can be firmly emblazoned on a piece of plastic, along with my photo. And maybe I'll receive another combination of numbers that people can use to identify me, in addition to the nine I already have. And I will tell the state — and by extension the federal — government where they can find me at all times, you know, just in case they need me. And I'll also let them know which cars they can find me in, in case I ever decide to skip town, because I'm helpful like that. And that reminds me: on Saturday, while I'm still punchy from signing a ream of papers and writing checks to people, I'm going to acquire a second four-wheeled A-to-B device. I'll do formal introductions later. For now, I'll just mention that it is a truck and I can't wait. At the same time, though, it's yet another thing to register. So while it symbolizes a certain amount of flexibility and freedom, it also chains me even tighter to The Grid. Damned irony.

And that's the central tension I feel in my life these days. That split feeling of excitement and dread at each turn. The excitement of new digs, new wheels, new jobs, new adventures. And the simultaneous anxiety these things create. And the way each of these things serves to "root" me . . . in place, in time, in a role. And I guess that's what life boils down to: a never-ending series of trade-offs between having the personal freedom to do what we wish and the compounding responsibility and obligation we assume as a result of those pursuits . . . our "rootedness." The more "independent" we become by acquiring the things and assuming the roles that make our lives easier and more "comfortable," — the more dependent we become on the network of utilities, services, and social constructs that keep those things going and the more fixed we become in those roles. Which makes things like moving, however exciting, a huge pain in the ass.

And now that I've ventured down into this murky, moderately depressing territory, let me step right back out of it and say, I can't wait to get on with it, already!

The next couple of weeks will be spotty with the Internet access. There will be the move, of course, and then once we get to the other side, it looks like it's going to be a week or so before our FiOS gets installed. (Speaking of being tied to The Grid, I'm totally psyched to finally be able to get FiOS!) Maybe not having Internet at home for those first couple of weeks will be good for me. It'll force me to get the new digs organized. It'll also no doubt force me out to a nearby Wi-Fi spot so I can occasionally do that pesky thing called "work." But hopefully there won't be anything terribly urgent to attend to, and I'll be able to just stay offline a bit. Off The Grid. Untied. Whatever. I have no doubt I'll gravitate back to it the first chance I get. Because I guess, when it's all said and done, I kinda like being tied up. Crap, how did this come back to fantasies?

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